Dubai's Desperate Housewife

Trials and traumas of a full-time mum in Dubai

Where does time go?

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When you first have a baby, there’s a moment when you suddenly realise that the baby’s going to be either with you, attached to you or carried by you almost 24 hours a day, for what seems like the rest of your life.  Mum and daughter

You understand that ‘nipping out for a pint of milk’ is a thing of the past – not without timing it around a feed, and lugging with you the baby, baby carrier, nappies, changing bag, muslin cloth, pushchair and kitchen sink anyway. Your life stretches ahead, filled only with childcare duties: there’ll be no more spontaneous bike rides and no more evenings spent reading novels – not until you’re old and grey, retired at least.

You also realise there’ll be no more silence – at least if your baby’s anything like DS was and refuses to sleep for more than 20 minutes in one go.

Anyway, what I’m trying to say today is that, at that point, you think your independent life is over. You can’t imagine how you’ll ever get your life back. And then you get used to it, and you start, maybe, to quite enjoy it.

You learn how to have adult conversations over the din of four 3-year-olds on a play date; you feel like a teenager when you manage to sneak out without a child attached; you look forward to seeing their little faces when you pick them up from nursery. You find your rhythm.

And then one day, way before you expect it, you realise that you’ve only seen your eight-year-old for an hour all day. That she went off to school at 7.10am and only came home, via a play date, at 7.30pm. You realise that you’ve spent 12 hours without seeing her; that she’s been out, living her life without you in it, all day. You barely have time to ask about it before she’s in bed, and even then she doesn’t want to tell you.  

Where does time go?


Written by mrsdubai

June 11, 2013 at 5:54 pm

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  1. Hi, I’m still far from that phase, but it just makes me realize that I need to treasure every moment now!


    June 13, 2013 at 1:07 pm

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