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Trials and traumas of a full-time mum in Dubai

What shocked you when you had your first baby?

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So Beyonce’s shocked to find that, having had a baby, she no longer has time to beautify herself. She now cuts her own hair and wears flat shoes (how long will that last, I wonder?).

Still looking pretty glossy there, Bey.

But still, the fact that mothers no longer have time ad infinitum to spend on pampering and preening must have come as a terrible shock to her – as most things do when you have your first baby. Even more so if, like Beyonce (and I, although I don’t wish to compare my career to hers lest she look like a slacker), you’re used to calling the shots in a career before you have your first baby.

So, what shocked you when you first gave birth? Thinking back seven years, here’s what surprised me when I first gave birth to DD:

          How much breast-feeding hurt. I had no idea.

          How much indignity there is in giving birth – and how little I cared about the indignity.

          How much there is that mothers never tell non-mothers.

          The fact that I could no longer eat the in-flight meal – or even drink gin – on flights.

          How little sleep I could get by on.

          How sick babies can mess up the best-laid of plans.

          The fact that the world goes on, no matter how rubbish you feel.

          How much I could love another human being.

I’d love to hear yours.


Written by mrsdubai

May 5, 2012 at 7:44 pm

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  1. That someone really needed me and loved me unconditionally and did not judge me. And was gifted to me by Allah!


    May 5, 2012 at 9:55 pm

  2. I am all for the indignity bit… A recently married friend of mine was telling me how she gets really uncomfortable when doctors check her heartbeat. I told her, once you have a baby that’ll go away. You lose all your inhibitions…


    May 6, 2012 at 8:08 am

  3. I remember my DH looking at me, wide-eyed with fear, and saying, ‘Where’s the off button?’ and me replying, deadpan with shock, ‘There isn’t one’.

    Circles in the Sand

    May 6, 2012 at 1:53 pm

    • We had a similar conversation that went along the lines of “Where’s the manual?” “There isn’t one!”


      May 6, 2012 at 9:08 pm

  4. …the tears in my eyes…!!


    May 6, 2012 at 3:51 pm

  5. That my hearing became supersonic – before my son was born I could sleep through anything, once he was born I would wake up even if he moved, sneezed, wimpered, any slight noise coming from his bedroom woke me up.

    Oh and yes I was so shocked that breastfeeding hurt so much, gawd those first couple of days are agony.

    Lovely post!


    May 6, 2012 at 5:03 pm

    • Thanks! Yes, I too, have become a light sleeper. Sometimes I even wake up seconds before DS cries in the night. Psychic. xox


      May 6, 2012 at 9:09 pm

  6. The breastfeeding agony. And how it can take so many hours of the day to look after a baby who doesn’t do anything except feed and sleep. (I’m still not sure, and I’ve had 3.)


    September 29, 2012 at 12:21 am

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